Your Job or Your Life ?? – A look into how to create a life of meaning – SBN Tv Ep. 3
Written by Adeposi Okupe on March 19, 2017
Why are you doing what you are currently doing?
See how to choose your life over your job here
The 30 day syndrome
Why do people get employed and keep jobs?
- To earn a living. The responsibility is real. You have to fend for yourself, get by, probably pay bills and sustenance if you have a family or dependants.
- To have a sense of security. The idea of a steady pay check every 30 days is somewhat comforting and assuring. If you have seen Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, you see that once you achieve the first level of needs which is physiological (food, air, shelter, etc) the next thing you start looking to get is safety and security.This is a huge reason why people are dead-scared of losing their jobs because with it comes a sense of security.
- To belong. You want the social pass mark of doing what is expected of you, and also be able to identify with a group of people to validate your progress.
Three phases of transition
- Your job – Sustenance.
This is where majority of people are stuck, trying to secure their basic survival needs and and just getting by. . don’t get stuck here. . see beyond your next paycheck and be more intentional about your decisions. .What this does to you is that it makes you a reactive person where things have to happen to you before you are able to make your own decisions and not a proactive person. You need to start being deliberate about your work, your finances and your vision.
- Think Career.
Thinking in terms of a career forces you to think long term.You need to start viewing your work as something you’re building. Employees don’t think this way.A lot Employees put all the responsibility for their well being and progress on their employers. And this is why a lot of employers use the threat of ‘losing your job’ to keep employees in check. There’s a better way but that’s the easy way out.When you think in terms of a career, a whole new world of possibilities opens up to you.Have you developed yourself to an extent where you are more valuable to the company than the company is to you?Have you considered the dynamics of that? How it would affect your compensation structure, your quality of life, your self-esteem and fulfillment?You may have only thought about working for a company as the way to make a living and build a career, but have you ever thought of partnering with the company or working ‘with’ the company?Just a slight change in the thought direction but it leads to a whole new different and exciting place.
- Your Life Work
What exactly is your mission?
What are you out to achieve?
Where do you want to be relevant?
What is your purpose/ calling?
What do you stand for/ believe in?
Again the employee mentality doesn’t allow you to think this way.
My career is in architecture, I decided to go to architecture school to understand how to solve problems.
I had the serendipity of having my father as an architect as well, so very early on I was able to observe how he designed buildings. But more importantly, over the years, I was able to see how he used ‘design thinking’ to really conduct his other businesses, and lots of other things.
That’s when I made up my mind to study Architecture. I see it as the best foundation one can have into a ‘design thinking’ career. And I want to apply that to other things apart from designing buildings alone.
I like to explore how emotional factors like stress levels, anger, selfishness, greed affect Lagos traffic.
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